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For release Friday July 21, 2006

 

 

The Sandwich Generation . . . Helping Your Aging Parents

 

by Carol Abaya, M.A.

 

 

REVERSE MORTGAGE CLARIFICATION:  Reverse mortgages (RM) can be a marvelous tool to allow older people with limited income to remain in their own home.

            After years of lender abuse, HUD/FHA now regulates how about 95% of RMs are given.  This still leaves the door open for possible abuse by non HUD lenders.

            In a previous column, The Sandwich Generation erroneously said the mortgage lender sells the house after the last homeowner dies.  Changes now place the repayment and sale responsibilities on the heirs.

             The loan must be repaid within a certain period of time, generally six or 12 months.  Repayment can be made by selling the house, from other assets of the deceased, or by the heirs themselves.  But the loan plus all accrued interest plus up front fees must be paid within the specified time frame.  In states where the settlement of an estate is cumbersome and/or lengthy, even a one-year repayment date can be dicey.

            Also, now a homeowner can sell at will and repay the RM lender the amount received plus interest plus up front fees.

            However, an elderly person might still lose the house because of bad financial advice.

             RMs are available to homeowners 62 years and older.  In 10% to 20% of RM situations, one spouse is younger and may not be 62.  In order to qualify for a RM all those named on the deed must be at least 62.  However, some mortgage brokers are suggesting that the deed be changed to have only the 62+ spouse on it.  This is risky because when the older spouse dies, the loan must be paid.  This leaves the surviving spouse in a troublesome situation as she may not have the money to repay. The house might have to be sold, leaving the surviving spouse out in the cold.   If the surviving spouse was then 62+, he or she would have to renegotiate a RM, with additional high up front fees. And renegotiation could be done only if there has been a substantial increase in the value of the home.

            MORE CAVEATS:  There are various kinds of RMs: a lump sum payment, a line of credit, or monthly benefits payments.

            If a person takes the lump sum and squanders it, there will be no money available for truly needed health care later on.

            If a person takes a line of credit, he or she immediately “owes” the up front fees -- even if the credit line is not used immediately.  Once used up, there is no more money available -- unless the value of the house has increased dramatically and a new loan is negotiated (again with high up front fees.)

            The most advantageous RM seems to be one that pays a set amount on a monthly basis.  Even if the homeowner lives a long life and has reached the limit of the original loan, monthly payments continue.   Heirs only have to repay the original loan amount plus accrued interest plus up front fees.

 

 

Are you juggling doing errands for your aging parents, your children, yourself and working at the same time?  Are you tired, stressed out and upset that your once vibrant parent is now frail and needy?

 

Do you feel alone?  Rest assured you are not alone!  The Sandwich Generation is dedicated to the 50 million Americans who may have elder/parent care concerns and/or responsibilities.

 

 

 

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Do you have a question? Send it in. Although letters cannot be answered individually, appropriate letters will be answered in this column whenever possible. Letters may be edited. Send letters to Ms. Carol Abaya, mail direct to her at PO Box 132, Wickatunk, NJ 07765-0132 or contact her through her web site: thesandwichgeneration.com.

 

Carol Abaya is an international-award-winning journalist and creator of the unique magazine The Sandwich Generation: You & Your Aging Parents.

 

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